Before even giving birth to my first child, I can remember people providing me unsolicited advice on parenting and all things baby. Over the years I’ve learned to take everything with a grain of salt, and to not always take things to heart. One of the things, or phrases rather, that has stuck out the most to me is people saying “Before you know it…they’ll be all grown up.”
If I’m being honest, as a new mother I often found this phrase to be annoying, and at times downright rude. How dare someone tell me that this new bundle of joy that I’m holding in my arms or pushing around in a shopping cart with piles of diapers, will soon be moved out, in college, and not in need of me anymore. Now keep in mind that at the time I was extremely overworked, desperately lacking sleep, and could’ve really stood a piece of chocolate cake or something.
Maybe this was why I took the phrase so personal and at first misunderstood it for its context; because as the years went by I realized that maybe people didn’t mean it an offensive way by any means, but rather as a subtle reminder to enjoy every tiny moment. And I slowly realized that the ones who were saying it to me, probably were re-longing for that sense of need that comes with motherhood (or fatherhood), because they, themselves had experienced the heartache that comes with children growing up way too fast, moving out, and onto creating their own lives with their own families.
Flash forward to now having a kindergartner and a 3 ½ year old, I realize that these words couldn’t be truer. It literally seems like yesterday I was in the hospital with my first born, and in complete awe of the miracle that having a baby truly is. During both the blissful and challenging stages of the baby years I can remember at times unknowingly taking those precious moments for granted and looking back now I wish I would have understood how very quickly time passes.
This past week I was able to have the most wonderful week off to spend with my boys and we had so much fun together. Between playing with toys, watching Christmas movies, baking treats in the kitchen, and simply just being silly, we had a blast. This past year has been such a busy time for our family. I spent the majority of the year completely consumed with work and going to school to complete my Master’s Degree.
Once I finished in August, my husband immediately started his Police Academy and with his already hectic work schedule wasn’t able to be home very much. There were definitely times where I felt overwhelmed with mom guilt and I didn’t know if I was doing the right thing in going to school and taking time away from my family. But at the end of the day I knew that my intentions were to create a better life for my family and I wanted to be a good role model for my kids.
I also knew that even though there were times where I had to do homework and wasn’t able to spend every second playing with my kids, that the time I did get to spend with them was special and that’s all that really matters. My children and husband will always be a top priority in my life and especially now that my oldest has started school I want to make the most of every day I’m blessed to spend with them on this earth.
So today I give to you the same advice I have received countless times over the years and I hope that you will find it as a helpful reminder- Enjoy every moment and live every day like it is your last. Understand that while this post is regarding children, whether or not you are a parent, it is crucial to learn to enjoy every moment in your life and cherish it for what it’s worth. Be mindful of your priorities and realize that no one is promised tomorrow. When your kids are pulling on your pants leg saying “Momma, can we go outside and play?” remember that the ten foot high pile of laundry, mound of dirty dishes, and unswept floor can wait. Because before you know it, they’ll be all grown up.
“Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.”- James 4:14 KJV
Thanks for stopping by!- Cara