6 Things I Miss About Life Before Social Media
Today’s post has honestly been a long time coming. Over the summer I took a lot of time off from Instagram and Facebook and I personally have such a love-hate relationship with social media these days. I know this might sound extremely odd coming from a full-time blogger who spends 99% of her time online, but I feel it’s something I really need to get off my chest and share, as I know I can’t be the only one who misses life before social media sometimes.
On the one hand, social media is a great way to keep in touch with people I care about and it gives me the ability to check in with family members/friends who live far away. And of course as a content creator and influencer, I love being able to reach people through my posts and connect with my followers and blogging friends.
On the other hand, social media can be 110% draining somedays. Between the lack of privacy we all now have, the comparison game that happens whether people want to admit it or not, and the 8,753 news reports of bad things happening around the world, it can be completely overwhelming. So in the spirit of keeping things real, today I’m sharing 6 things I miss about life before social media.
6 Things I Miss About Life Before Social Media
Life Before Social Media: Everything Didn’t Have to Be Photographed
We live in a digital and very much visual era. And while I love being able to take photos on my phone or camera and instantly document something, I kind of miss the days of having to get film developed for photos. Because if you took something on your Kodak camera and wanted it printed out to look at, you had to trot yourself down to the local drugstore and pay money to have it developed.
This meant you were much more mindful of the photos you took on your camera and you only took photos of things you really loved and wanted to document forever. Back then, it’s almost like our entire priorities were different. We didn’t care about sharing what we ate today with the entire world, or what store we visited, but instead only photographed things that were truly meaningful. In a lot of ways, I miss this.
Life Before Social Media: We All Lived More In the Moment
On the same token, I miss just living in the moment instead of having to photograph, video, IG story, snapchat, FB live every major moment for the world to see. We’ve all heard the expression, “If it isn’t documented, did it even happen?” I seriously want to shake the person who said this.
Birthday parties, dinners, going to an amusement park, hanging out with friends- all those things are meant to be enjoyed and sometimes I think we all can be a little too worried over documenting it or sharing it with our followers/friends, that we’re not truly living in the moment. I can be so guilty of this sometimes, but I’m trying my hardest to put away the phone and make a conscientious effort to just enjoy the ride.
Are we truly enjoying watching a sunset if we spend 10 minutes trying to get the perfect filter/lighting? YOLO you guys, yolo. Don’t be that person who hikes to the top of a mountain only to fall over the edge trying to take a selfie. Actually enjoy life and “do it for the gram” a little less.Don't be that person who hikes to the top of a mountain only to fall over the edge trying to take a selfie. Actually enjoy life and 'do it for the gram' a little less.Click To Tweet
Life Before Social Media: You Didn’t Always Know Everyone’s Business
When it comes to social media, I’m a huge fan of search engines like Google and Pinterest and the fact that if I want to know the answer to some crazy question I’ve formulated in my head or a recipe I’ve been dying to try, I can almost instantly find it. What I’m not a fan of? Knowing everybody’s business including their mom’s, sister’s, and third cousin’s, twice removed.
Even though I’m a blogger and I do share a lot of myself with the world, I’m very conscientious of the things I share and mindful of who I share it with. Oh, how I wish the rest of the world would follow suit.
Back in the day, I would meet someone in real life and think “Wow, they’re really nice”. With social media, I’m now unfortunately exposed to the many sides of people and all their dirty laundry.
Maybe I’m crazy, but I’d rather not know about everyone’s marital problems, money issues, political views, or weird obsessions.
Life Before Social Media: Ignorance Was Bliss
I truly hope this doesn’t come across the wrong way, but sometimes I miss when I didn’t know about every single atrocity happening around the world. Yes, I like staying in the know about major local and real world events, but at the same token it’s super depressing to see nothing but article upon article of reports on the latest shooting, murder, political scandal, and feud.
Years ago we all would have had to turn on the 5 or 6 o’ clock evening news to know what was going on. We watched, we listened, we discussed, and then we all went about our day.
Now we’re constantly bombarded with the latest news reports and I honestly don’t think it’s good for anyone’s mental health. Sometimes we all need to take a step back and while it’s good to sympathize over the situations happening, we can’t let it consume our every waking minute.
Life Before Social Media: People Actually Talked to One Another
How many times have you been out somewhere and noticed that nobody in the room is talking to one another? Instead each and every person has their phone or tablet out mindlessly scrolling through a feed or watching videos. You guys- when did this become the norm?!
Listen, I get it – nobody likes sitting around bored in a waiting room, but gosh darn it can we all just put the phones down for 10 seconds and actually talk to one another?
There is nothing, I repeat nothing, that important going on elsewhere in the world that needs your attention over the people you are with. Talk to your family, chat with your friends, heck- start a conversation with a perfect stranger, and put the phones down.
Life Before Social Media: Life Wasn’t Such a Competition
Sure there’s always been “keeping up with the joneses” but back before social media we all didn’t worry about what everyone else was doing nearly as much. You only knew about the lives of people who were directly part of yours and didn’t feel the need to compare yourself to perfect strangers.
Nowadays we’re all constantly reminded of the things we don’t have, places we haven’t been, and accomplishments we haven’t yet made. We see feed upon feed of seemingly-perfect lives so much that we begin to think there’s something wrong with our own.
I truly try to take social media with a grain of salt and constantly remind myself that the majority of it is curated and not an accurate depiction of real life, but I get that a lot of people really struggle with this. And above all, I miss a time where we all didn’t feel like our hair, makeup, weight, home, or job had to be Instagram worthy or it wasn’t good enough. We were real and it was refreshing.I miss a time where we all didn't feel like our hair, makeup, weight, home, or job had to be Instagram worthy or it wasn't good enough. We were real and it was refreshing.Click To Tweet
All in all, I miss the fact that life seemed to be a lot more simple before social media. You spent less time worrying about what everyone else and their mom was doing online and spent a lot more time doing things with the ones who actually mattered to you.
The older I get the more I realize how precious our time is, and personally- I think we all could stand a good social media detox every now and then.
Are there things you miss about life before social media? Do you also share a love-hate relationship with social media? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
Thanks for stopping by!- Cara