Last Thursday, October 13th was my ten year “dateiversary” with my husband. First off, I’m pretty shocked that ten years have already went by since we’ve been a part of each other’s lives. (Does that mean we’re getting old?) Second, it really got me thinking about all of the things I’ve learned throughout our marriage and relationship. More specifically, I thought about all of the ways we manage to bring out the good in one another, but also how my husband has succeeded in being the one person who constantly helps me get through the biggest challenges and struggles in my life.
As someone who has a strong Type-A personality, it was clear to me from the beginning that we definitely fell under the category of “opposites attract”. I’m competitive, somewhat of a perfectionist, extremely schedule oriented, a clean freak, and pretty much have always worn my heart on my sleeve. On the other hand, my husband is messy, a procrastinator, is an advocate of “go-with-the-flow”, and always seems like he couldn’t have a care in the world. While I could definitely live without the messy part, the fact that my husband has such a care-free, laid back attitude has always been very attractive and refreshing, as that’s something that definitely doesn’t come natural for me.
I’ll just be honest here and tell you that I’m a worrier by nature, and have been known to conjure up completely irrational thoughts and concerns on the sly. Sometimes I let anxiety get the best of me and get so stressed out over the tiniest things that I have no control over, and before I know it I’m in full blown panic mode to the point of tears. And in those moments, I’m so thankful that I have someone like my husband to remind me a. to breathe b. to eat a snickers if necessary (totally necessary sometimes because hangry is real) and c. to let it go.
Let It Go- My New Life Motto
Raise your hand if you’ve ever gotten stressed out about something that you shouldn’t be stressing over? If you are being honest with yourself that should be everyone who is reading this post right now. We all do it. We get stressed out over the silliest things- like the fact that the lady at McDonalds forgot to put ketchup in your bag, or the fact that your husband forgot to turn on the dishwasher this morning. Stuff that probably sounds completely ridiculous to someone else, but to you it’s 100% stressful. Because in that moment you couldn’t control the outcome.
But that’s the thing. As much as we’d love to, we cannot control everything in our lives. And we know that deep down, but yet we still find ourselves stressing over things that are outside our boundaries of control. So what can we do? It’s actually pretty simple- we can let it go.
I cannot even begin to tell you how many times in the last three years at my job I’ve wanted so badly to control situations that I had no say over whatsoever. I could probably write a dissertation on the amount of times I’ve came home feeling horrible about something that happened at work and letting the stress of a situation consume me, when in reality I should have just let it go. We all sit around and worry ourselves silly with something going on that we have no horse in the race for, when it shouldn’t be our concern.
And trust me when I tell you that this reality has not been an easy lesson for me to learn, nor is the lesson over. It’s going to be a continuous journey of reminding myself to stop and breathe, and let it go. To tell myself that whatever it is, isn’t my circus nor my monkeys, and to let it go.
Because when we let go of all that stress, and all that worry and negativity, only then can we really focus on the good in our lives and find happiness.
I hope today’s post resonated with someone, somewhere, and I hope that it served as a reminder to worry less, and live life more.
Do you practice this motto in your daily life? What are your de-stressors?
Thanks for stopping by!-Cara
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