What Becoming a Mother Has Taught Me

Sharing what becoming a mother has taught me and all the valuable life lessons I’ve learned from motherhood and the journey of becoming a mom.

Sharing what becoming a mother has taught me and all the valuable life lessons I've learned from motherhood and the journey of becoming a mom.

What Becoming a Mother Has Taught Me

Today, exactly 6 years ago, I was given one of life’s greatest blessings- I became a mother and welcomed the most beautiful blue eyed, red-headed boy into my life.

I can remember feeling so scared yet excited all at the same time at the thought of meeting my baby for the first time, and trying to wrap my mind around how much life was going to change right before my very eyes.But even though I had absolutely no clue what to expect, had no idea what I was doing, and had no concept of how I would handle all of the unknowns that come with parenting, I knew in that moment my life had been given purpose.

I had been given a reason to strive to be the absolute best person I could be and my needs, wants, and desires were no longer the priority. I had become a mother, and I knew from the very beginning I was going to love my baby absolutely endlessly, with every fiber of my being.

Today I’m sharing 6 Life Lessons Becoming a Mother Has Taught Me and how becoming a mom has helped shape me into the person I am today.

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What Becoming a Mother Has Taught Me

Motherhood Lesson #1 – Motherhood is a Blessing

Being a mother truly is a gift from God, and I have not, nor will I ever take it for granted. I had my son when I was 20 years old, which might be young for many, but I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

Sure, it’s never been a cake walk, and there have been so many moments I’ve questioned whether I was doing it right, but in my mind it has always been a blessing that I’m 100% thankful for. That said, I’m a firm believer that Moms need support, not judgement and it’s 110% okay to ask for help from others. Also, if you see a mom struggling, don’t hesitate to offer help or to simply listen to their problems. It makes all the difference in the world knowing that you are not alone as a mom.

 

Motherhood Lesson #2 – Love is Unconditional

It truly is indescribable, but the love that a mother has for her children is truly beyond measure. From that very first moment that I held my son in my arms, I knew that I was going to love him as I long as I lived and that I would always do whatever it took to ensure he was happy.

That feeling just grew exponentially the moment I had my second child as well and seeing the love that they have for one another just melts my heart. It’s crazy to think that when I became a mother I thought I would be the only one learning lessons, but here’s 5 Life Lessons My Boys Taught Me.

 

Motherhood Lesson #3 – It’s the Little Things That Matters to Them

It’s easy to get caught up in the everyday chaos and end up questioning yourself as a parent, but being a mom has taught me that above all –  it’s the little things that matters to them. Mom guilt can be hard, but I’ve learned over the years to give myself grace and instead of trying to do it all, I’ve focused on the things that really matters.

The bedtime stories, the kisses on their boo-boo’s, the special snacks, and the silly games are all what matters to them and when they grow up and look back on it all, they will remember those things the most. It’s the little things that made them smile, laugh, and feel loved, not a perfect house or extravagant gifts.

 

Motherhood Lesson #4 – Life is Messy, But It’s Always Beautiful

I’ve learned life is not about being perfect and a house is meant to be lived in. I’ve learned messes are when memories are made and playing in the dirt is what it’s all about.

When my boys get older and look back on their childhood, they won’t remember a sparkling house, but they will remember the times where their mom let them make mud pies, and where mom let them build a homemade volcano that erupted in the kitchen.

 

Motherhood Lesson #5 – Savor the Moments

Both of my boys have such pure hearts and free-spirits, and their laughter and smiles are truly contagious. No matter how rough of a day I’ve had at work, when I see my kids, they light up my world and make me so incredibly happy. There’s so many special things I don’t want to forget about their childhood and this period in our lives.

These past 6 years have literally zoomed by so fast, and it has made me realize the importance of savoring every precious moment. It was only yesterday I was holding my first son for the very first time and now he’s graduating Kindergarten. I’m learning to have a grateful heart with every day and to enjoy the little things.


In honor of my son’s 6th birthday, I thought I would share some adorable photos of him below.

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Happy Birthday, Handsome boy! You make us all so happy and I love you with all of my heart. One day when you get older and read this, I hope you know how much you truly mean to me, your Dad, and your brother. You’re such a beautiful soul, so smart, and I’m so proud of you! Hope you have a fantastic day!


Hope you enjoyed today’s post on What Becoming a Mother Taught Me. I’d love to hear from other Mom’s out there: What has motherhood taught you? In what ways did becoming a mom change you? Comment below!

Thanks for stopping by! – Cara

 

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87 Comments

  1. ellesees.net wrote:

    So sweet!! Isn’t it amazing how fast those 6 years flew by? Hope he had a wonderful birthday. MY youngest sis is a redhead!!

    Posted 6.1.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Aw thank-you! It goes by waaay too fast! I think redheads are so cute πŸ™‚

      Posted 6.2.16 Reply
  2. Jennifer wrote:

    Cara this is so beautiful! I love each point so much. I think you are definitely right about it mattering to them. It’s funny looking back on growing up, but more than cool toys or big events, I love the songs we sang together that I felt like I shared with my parents or the goofy games we played as a family. You are certainly making their lives special!

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you Jennifer! Exactly, I’m the same way. I rarely remember what presents I received for birthdays, but instead I remember the special cakes my mom made from scratch, or the silly games we would play to pass the time on rainy days. πŸ™‚ You are a great momma as well!

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  3. Jaclyn wrote:

    Happy birthday to your little man! This is a great list to reflect on. Especially the point about it mattering to them. I am a very busy working mom – but when I am with my kids, I am with them! I don’t care about the chores (which sometimes bites me in the butt) or who is calling my phone … it is their time!

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! I completely agree Jaclyn. Yes I could focus my time on cleaning my house or working, but at the end of my life I don’t want to look back on it and think wow I wish I wouldn’t have worried so much about those things. Time flies, and it’s important to enjoy every moment. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
      • Jaclyn wrote:

        Exactly! Moments are what is important ?

        Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  4. Heather Davis wrote:

    Your son is so adorable! You are right that the little things matter to them.

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! It really does, I think sometimes we forget that they are so young and innocent, everything is so special to them, and we need to remember that. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  5. Kim wrote:

    He is seriously so precious! You are a wonderful mother Cara and I am so honored you share your adventures in parenting with us! You have a beautiful family and you are truly such an amazing person, so deserving of it! Hope you are having a wonderful week gorgeous mama! XO -Kim

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Aw, Kim, you’re seriously so sweet- gonna make this emotional mama cry! haha Your sweet comments always make my day brighter! Have a wonderful day πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  6. Emelia wrote:

    Happy Birthday to your son, he is so sweet! I love this post. I think the biggest thing I have learned from being a Stepmom is that every moment matters. The ones spent doing homework, watching soccer games, playing, bedtime…they’re all so special.

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!! That’s a great point, and I definitely agree. Even what seems like the most mundane moments to us as parents, really matter to them. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  7. Lily wrote:

    This is so incredibly sweet and beautiful, Cara! You have such a gorgeous boy…love that red hair and blue eyes! πŸ™‚
    I hope he had the best birthday! You are such a good momma!
    xo, Lily
    Beauty With Lilyο»Ώ

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you Lily! Your sweet comments are always much appreciated πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  8. Priscilla wrote:

    Lovely pictures! HeΒ΄s adorable! πŸ™‚
    http://hairandvibes.blogspot.com

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thanks Priscilla! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  9. kathy @ more coffee, less talky wrote:

    awww happy birthday to your little boy!! it’s incredible how fast they grow!

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! Time seriously flies! πŸ™ I think it goes faster one they are in school too.

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  10. Marjorie Burch wrote:

    Wow, mother is a great job, and your baby is so cute!

    Posted 5.24.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!!

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  11. LIndsay wrote:

    This is so sweet! Happy Birthday to your sweet boy. I hope he’s enjoyed his day! And you, too, momma!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! πŸ™‚ His party isn’t until this weekend but we had a blast opening one of his gifts and playing “Pop the pig”. If your niece doesn’t have it, she would love it! It’s hilarious πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  12. Ali wrote:

    This is such a wonderful post! Happy birthday to an adorable boy!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  13. Jen @ Skirt The Rules wrote:

    What a wonderful journey! Your little guy is so cute!

    xo Jen
    Skirt The Rules

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you so much! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  14. Kate @ Green Fashionista wrote:

    Awwww such a beautiful post! Happy Birthday to your little man <3
    Green Fashionista

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you Kate! He’s my sweetheart πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.25.16 Reply
  15. Stephanie wrote:

    Happy birthday to your little one!!! So cute!!!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  16. Denay DeGuzman wrote:

    Happy Birthday to your handsome little boy! It’s so sweet to see photos of your little guy growing up. Our adventures as mothers are exciting, tiring, challenging, but so very, very worth it! Savor every minute. πŸ™‚

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! Great advice, Denay! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  17. Nadine wrote:

    Awwwww happy birthday to that cutie!!! This post is so sweet πŸ™‚ Six is such a fun age!!! I have two nephews that turned six this year and they crack me up!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! I’m excited! His little personality just keeps shining through more and more each year, and it’s fun to watch. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  18. Joanna wrote:

    Beautifully said mama! Motherhood is the craziest and best adventure out there:)

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! It truly is! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  19. Aileen (Aileen Cooks Blog) wrote:

    Number 3: it matters to them. Yes! Those little moments really are what make up a happy childhood. πŸ™‚

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      It’s so true! I know I will always remember the special times in my Mom’s kitchen and the silly games we played. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  20. Bre | Maintaining Me wrote:

    Yes to all of this! And the pictures are adorable!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  21. Sarah @ Bows and Clothes wrote:

    Awww, he is so cute! Happy birthday to him! I agree with it all!

    Sarah
    http://mybowsandclothes.blogspot.com/

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you, Sarah! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  22. Rachel wrote:

    This is so sweet! Happy birthday to your little boy!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you so much! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  23. Erin wrote:

    I wish your son a very Happy Birthday! This is beautifully written and I couldn’t agree more. We learn so much on this motherhood journey.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you Erin! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  24. Leslie wrote:

    Awesome post, Cara! Happy birthday to your handsome little guy!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!!

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  25. Kristina @ Ms.Modify wrote:

    Happy Birthday little guy! What a cutie he is! This is a sweet reflection that you have to share with them when they get older! xo, Kristina

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! I hope they will appreciate it one day! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  26. SMD @ Life According to Steph wrote:

    Happy sixth to your boy! Great reflection on the lessons you’ve learned.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! It’s always nice to look back on all the things I’ve learned over the past few years. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  27. Ashley wrote:

    This is so sweet. I love that you said It Matters to Them. Everything matters to the little people in our lives and it is important to always remember that. I personally get really upset when people make small promises to children and then go back on their word. It’s important to children because they get their hopes up so much and I don’t think it is right for people to disappoint innocent kids. Happy Birthday to your little guy!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! I completely agree with that, children are so innocent-minded and are so special and it’s a shame when people take it for granted.

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  28. Rebecca Jo wrote:

    Happy Birthday to your little red headed sweetie!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!!

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  29. Sarah wrote:

    As a momma of four – I saw AMEN to all of these!
    Blessings!
    Sarah (www.sarahefrazer.com)

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! They definitely are, Sarah!

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  30. Timothy Ferguson wrote:

    When Darragh was born Cara I was so proud of you and Rob for having such a beautiful handsome little boy. He stole our hearts and we Love him more and more everyday. Happy Birthday Diggy Dag! Pappy Paw and Mammy Maw.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      He says thank-you and he loves you too!

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  31. katelyn chef wrote:

    your lil man is too cute! he’s a keeper!
    -Katelyn
    theyellowspectacles.com

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Aw thank-you! He is rotten for sure πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  32. Gina wrote:

    I love this Cara! Beautiful. And your little man is a cutie!
    Makes me even more excited for becoming a mom someday, Lord willing!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you so much! I pray that it will happen for you too, it truly is a wonderful gift! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  33. Kiran wrote:

    What a cutie! Happy Birthday, I am not a Mom but I can to some degree relate to the changes. M brother was born when I was 10 and it is amazing the love that it hits you with, because he was so little and tiny for so long. He is the best person in my world and I love him to death even when he is a massive pain. I hope your family has a lovely day. Lots of love x

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin | Instagram

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Aw thank-you! That is so sweet that you have such a strong bond with your brother. It truly is amazing πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  34. Kate wrote:

    Happy birthday, little man! Motherhood has definitely taught me to find joy in the tiniest moments- and just to laugh. A lot!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! I agree- you have to sometimes laugh at the chaos otherwise, you’ll go crazy-haha πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  35. Erin | A Welder's Wife wrote:

    Aww! Cara, this post brought tears to my eyes! I can tell being a mom means the world to you! I wish I could share with you as well, but children haven’t been in the cards for me just yet [but trust me, I’m working on it πŸ˜‰ ]. I do have the joy of being an aunt, and there is nothing more precious than seeing my brother and sister in laws raising beautiful girls! I am the country aunt who has shown them things they would not learn in the city, so that has been a lot of fun. However, I can’t wait to say some of the same things you are able to say about your boys.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you Erin! I truly hope and pray that you get to experience this one day, as it is such a blessing. It sounds like you are a wonderful aunt, and I bet your nieces love spending time at your house! πŸ˜‰

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  36. Pamela wrote:

    So sweet! Happy birthday to your little man! <3, Pamela
    Sequins & Sea Breezes

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  37. Candy wrote:

    As soon as I found out I was expecting for the first time, all my priorities changes. All about raising my children.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Exactly, Candy! It’s like nothing else matters, except your children. πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  38. Andrea Nine wrote:

    I couldn’t agree more! You said this so well sweet lady and happy happy birthday to your oldest and very handsome guy!!

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!!

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  39. Jacquelyn @ The Lowcountry Mama wrote:

    Aww happy birthday handsome!! I’m going to have a one year old soon and I can’t believe it.. I can’t even remember life before motherhood though, it’s just the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you! I know what you mean, I definitely wouldn’t trade it for anything! πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply
  40. Samantha wrote:

    Awww! This is sooo sweet! Happy birthday to your very handsome little man! I love your lessons. I’ve also learned that it’s okay for the house to get messy, and that saying yes is way more fun than saying no.

    Posted 5.23.16 Reply
    • Kindly Unspoken wrote:

      Thank-you!! I agree, sometimes I think we’re ingrained to automatically say no to everything, but it is okay to say yes, and way more fun πŸ™‚

      Posted 5.23.16 Reply