Life Happens- Why I’m Not Apologizing
In case you didn’t notice, I haven’t been on the blog as much lately. I took a week off due to an overwhelming work load with my full-time job, and then an Emergency Room visit with our youngest son paired with a sick puppy having to be rushed to the Vet early last week led to yet another missed blog post on Wednesday. (Both are fine, by the way) But you know what? It’s okay. Yes, I’ll say it again- it’s OKAY. The world didn’t suddenly stop spinning because I didn’t manage to get my two blog posts up for the last two weeks, and life as we know it didn’t end.
Did I beat myself up over it? Absolutely. Why? Because I’m a struggling perfectionist who thinks everything has to be on point, all the time, and there’s no room for error. But how completely crazy is that? Life happens, ya’ll. It happens, every single day, no matter how much we plan things out and over analyze and articulate- life happens, and you just have to roll with it.
To be honest, this very situation really got me thinking about society as a whole and how we put so much pressure on ourselves and even one another. I’ve noticed that on days where we’re not feeling our best or life has really taken a toll on us, we end up apologizing. But why should we apologize for being human? We are all human, we all make mistakes, things happen, and it’s crazy that we’ve set the bar so high up there, that we think we need to be on our A-game 24/7.
I can’t begin to tell you how many times I went back and forth with even writing this post and sharing it with you all, simply because that stupid little voice in my head kept saying- “nobody wants to hear about your struggles, they just want to hear about all the good things in your life.” And if that’s true, well I’m sorry to disappoint you, but I’m not perfect and my life most certainly isn’t either.
Do I have a beautiful family whom I love with my whole heart? Absolutely. Do I have a job that I’m very thankful for? For sure. Do I have a roof over my head, food on my table, and more clothes and makeup than necessary. Yes, yes, and double yes.
But are there days where I come home from a ridiculously long day of work, have zero patience, and the puppy proceeds to mess with everything he can get his paws on, the kids are running around screaming at the highest decibel humanly possible, and the only thing I have the energy to “cook” is a peanut butter sandwich, to which I then realize we have no bread for? Yep. Days like those happen all.the.time.
I think we all get it in our heads that all of these people we follow along with online have such perfect, pretty lives, but here’s the thing- they’re only showing you the “highlights”. They’re showing you the cute outfit, the makeup selfie, or the snapshots of being on vacation with the family, but they’re not showing you the huge fight they just had with their husband, the piles of laundry stacked a mile high, or the burnt cookies.
But if they did, then maybe you wouldn’t feel so bad about those things in your own life. Maybe if you knew that the rest of the world has issues just like you, you wouldn’t beat yourself up so much. So that’s exactly why I’m sharing this today. I want you to know that I’m not perfect, I struggle to balance it all, I struggle to keep everything together, and there’s days where I just want to hide under the covers and stay in my warm bed.
I never started this blog to paint a fake image of my life, or to try to make people think I’m perfect. I started this blog because I knew that at the end of the day there are so many individuals in this world who struggle and deal with the same issues that I do and that if we all just look out for one another and support each other, that maybe it’ll all be okay in the end. Maybe instead of striving for unattainable perfection, we should be celebrating the small things and learning to love the little imperfections in our world.
The days where my kids and the puppy drive me insane? Those days are fleeting, and I can guarantee you I’ll miss them a few years from now. (Plus, it gives me a level of entertainment you just can’t find anywhere else in the world.) The days where people at work make you want to pull your hair out? Let’s learn to laugh at those days instead of bottling it up inside and getting stressed. Because laughter and love truly are the best medicines for us.
So if you ever feel like you’re all alone out there in struggling to stay afloat and in having all your stuff together, trust me when I say that I’m right there with you wholeheartedly. No matter what you see on people’s social media feeds or what people try to let on about their “perfect” lives, we are all human. We all fall down, we all make messes, and we all have crazy lives, but let’s stop apologizing for it and pretending that it’s something it isn’t.
So I wanna know- what have you been struggling with lately? Have you had a crazy day, week, or month? Share it with me and let’s learn to love our crazy, beautiful lives.
Thanks for stopping by!-Cara
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